Online Dating Etiquette - 0181

Online dating is very easy and convenient. You can meet people, talk to them, even if you sit in front of your computer in your pajamas and curlers in your hair. But even if online dating takes out the pressure to dress to impress, this means you have to be extra careful about the way people can perceive the way you express yourself. Without realizing it, you can come across as rude or overbearing, simply because you forgot to take the caps lock as you typed. Or a simple joke may accidentally come across as offensive without the traditional “context clues” like body language or facial expressions. Take note of the following online dating etiquette:

• Be honest. It will be difficult to unravel the lies you make once you meet face to face. And having a reputation for being deceitful can spread among a dating site’s members, ruining your chances of anyone trusting you again.

• Don’t spill all your secrets right away. It can be uncomfortable for the other person to hear something very, very private about you even if you’ve only known each other for a short time. Besides, don’t you want to leave something to the imagination?

• Don’t be pushy about someone else’s personal information. Let them open up in their own time, and when they do, don’t spread it around or gossip behind their back. This may be an online relationship but you’re still dealing with real people with real feelings.

• Respect diversity. Online dating attracts many different types of people from different cultures and backgrounds. So no ethnic jokes, no religious jokes, no derogatory comments.

• Don’t lurk. This means tagging along a discussion, reading people’s messages, without contributing.

• Don’t type in all caps. It comes across as shouting.

• Don’t abbreviate. “Ur gr8, I lyk u” or even “ROTFWL” isn’t immediately or automatically decipherable. Remember that many people try online dating, and they may not be familiar with the codes and lingos. Plus, you don’t want other people think that you can’t spell or write. Type out the whole word, and be grammatically correct. This is all about making a good impression, right?

• Don’t sound desperate. If you come across too needy or eager for a relationship, you’ll scare away people or attract cyber-abusers (people who like tricking or playing around with their vulnerable victims). This includes using any user names that make you sound powerless or love-obsessed. (Would you go out with someone named Heartbroken?)

• Just to avoid confusion, pick a user name that is gender-specific.

Online dating can be a very rewarding and enjoyable experience if you follow simple rules of respect and sensitivity.
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Dating A Stranger - 0180

If you are finding a safe portal for meeting other people for dating, Christian online dating is your answer! Most people consider online dating as an option in getting to know other people outside of their circle. The Christian community now utilizes this current trend of communication to widen their reach and to create a fun-loving environment.

Through the Internet, you can search thousands of other Christian profiles and get to know each one online. There’s a vast Christian network that has varied interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. You can check out their profiles and you may even find one that you like. Christian online dating has proved to be very effective for most people who participate with friendships and often blooms into serious relationships.

Christian online dating provides a very comfortable environment and is considered safe. The online dating community like www.NoMoreSingles.com is a place where you can create lasting relationships for acquaintance, friendship, companionship, romance, and can even lead to a permanent commitment.

Normally, a Christian online dating website should include chat rooms where you can have fun discussions. You can also post memos and notes on message boards and share pictures with photo galleries. And of course, you can send personal messages to private mail boxes. Many dating websites also feature instant messaging and voice introductions for a more personal touch. Some of the Christian websites even offer Christian dating services aside from online matching.

In a Christian online dating site, the center is spirituality. You include faith in your search for a mate. Most people go to a Christian community for dates because they prefer to have somebody within their faith. People here believe they have filtered out the dates with people who may not share the same set of values.

In fact, mellow people usually belong to this group of online daters. They are those who dislike too much loud music, bar hopping, and disco dancing. Most dates here end in a cozy restaurant or a sweet music place. Although this is not necessarily true all the time, it can be frequently observed on date outcomes based on testimonials.

It is better to date with someone sharing your beliefs because it would be more reassuring than starting with somebody who does not share the same principles. If you are joining a Christian online dating site, you’ll know what you can expect. And as implied, the online society is Christ-centered.

And by association, Christ is all pure love and kindness. If you join the group, this indicates you support Christian values and standards. Meeting the love of your life could be a possibility! Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...


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Dating Advice For Men - Essential Guide - 0179

When it comes to dating, it's not just the women who worry about, will he like me, will we get on, what shall I wear etc etc. In actual fact, most man go through all the above fears just like women do. It would be nice if we could read just one book or article and know everything we need to know about women, relationships and dating. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way.

The best dating advice often seems to come from people who have been in the same situations as ourselves and have gained some comforting wisdom that we can relate to.

When dating, the thing we should always remember is that advice is simply what someone else thinks might assist you. The person giving this advice may not necessarily have any idea of your true state of mind of your particular circumstances, therefore it is always important to take note of what advice you have been given, others opinions are valuable, as it may help you to form your own opinion on what's right for you.

Below are some helpful hints and advice, some may suit you and others may not. Remember these hints are not set in stone, you may want to adjust some to suit your own personal goals.

1. The worst thing you could do when going on a date is to turn up unshaven and looking dirty. You would be appalled if she turned up in the same state. It may be fickle but unfortunately it's true appearances count for a lot.

2. Whatever you do, don't turn up late, you will definitely give her the wrong impression. Not only will she think you've stood her up, she will also think you're unreliable.

3. Be a gentleman, open the door for her, pull out her chair in the restaurant. Women like to feel special, treat her like a lady and you'll do well.

4. Compliment her. A woman loves to be complimented, even if she doesn't show it. Don't go overboard though, but let her feel you are attracted to her.

5. Ask questions and genuinely listen to her answers. After all you are going on a date to get to know her. There is nothing more that a woman likes than when someone is interested in what  they have to say.

6. Prepare yourself for the date. Think about what it is you would like to find out about her. Also think about what she might ask you. The last thing you want is for the conversation to dry up half way into the date.

7. It is advisable that you dont bring up adult matters or sex toys for example on at least the first 3 dates. In the long run this can only do you good and she will certainly be more interested in you if you hold back.

8. When it comes to paying the bill, offer to pay. If she insists on paying, then offer to go halves and split the bill.

9. What about the goodnight kiss? Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others will be disappointed if you don't. Judge the situation for yourself, her body language will give you a good idea of what's right.

10. When leaving, only ask for her number or tell her you will call if you really mean it. In the long run this will be best for both of you. If you do like her and are interested, then don't be afraid to let her know. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...


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Dating - What Do You Want From Your Dating Partner? - 0178

When you begin dating, try to know what you want from your dating partner. Let me make this clearer. All of us date for different reasons. Sometimes theses reasons are unknown to our conscious mind. With application of thought and reflection, we can find out what we want from our dating partner.

You may be looking for following and some other needs to be fulfilled by your dating partner. They are primary, and there may be many secondary reasons. Let us discuss them. Every one is dating - I want to date and have a partner because everyone is doing that. I am happy otherwise and can continue without a partner happily for many more years. But I want a partner because everyone is having one.

Physical needs - I need a partner primary for my physical needs. I need a biological partner.
Companion and friend- I want a friend who will be with me through pain and pleasures of my life.
Fulfillment- I feel unfulfilled. I want fulfilled. I am not able to define this vacuum but I think that a partner will do it.
I want my own - I want to have someone y very own. In front of who I can laugh and cry. Who will support me through life and whom I will support like wise? I want to walk watching the sunset hand in hand with my beloved.

I want love - I need love and pampering. I never got it in my childhood. I need it badly. I want someone who will treat me gently and give me love.
There may be many other wants that one desires the dating partner to fulfill. Once you know what precisely you want from your dating partner your choice becomes narrowed down and you will get better results. Knowing about our requirement always helps in in satisfying our needs. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...




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Dating A Professional Single - 0177

At one time or another and maybe in some people's cases all the time we've dreamed about dating a rich guy or gal. You know the successful lawyer or doctor or the on the edge entrepreneur. It's that perfect scene we play in our head that allows us to see things just the way we want them to be but in reality dating a professional single may not be quite so picture perfect. Now I don't mean that in a negative sense I mean that more in a realistic, scheduling, goal reaching, aggressive personality sense.

What is a professional single?

I guess in technical terms it would be any single person who holds a "white collar" job. A business owner, a executive, a doctor, a lawyer, I think you get the idea. Someone who probably has a college degree, maybe several, someone who is driven to succeed, who probably enjoys the finer things in life, who doesn't like excuses but relishes results. A person who wants to make the most out of their professional life. They are not satisfied with a 9 to 5 career but are instead looking for every opportunity to succeed as far as they can in their given field. Does that make them a bad person? Does that make them a person who cares for no one but themselves? Hardly, in fact the world needs driven individuals like a professional single.

Can you imagine where we would be if the Romans had not had so many driven people or if the Egyptians had decided that thinking big was too much? I'm not trying to get into a history lesson or morality debate here, I'm just showing what a person who is trying to get the most out of themselves can do. A single professional is certainly a person trying to get the most out of themselves.

What are the downfalls to dating a professional single?

Like any relationship involving two people you will always have downfalls so don't be under the impression that dating a professional single will be any better or worse than dating the non-professional single. Those factors lie more in who the person is not what their career is. I mean if you date a jerk, you date a jerk. Whether he has on a $1500 suit or a pair of Levi Overalls, he's a jerk. OK, so what are the downfalls to dating a professional single?

Time away from home - This means time away from you. The job is always on their mind - You might be out on the perfect dinner date but if a big deal is in the works you should not be surprised if the cell phone rings and it's answered.

Perfectionism - They may not be the tidiest person or remember to bring flowers but in some way all highly driven professionals are perfectionists
Job is first - Can you play second fiddle? Although this may not be true in every sense but in many ways the job will come first.

How to avoid the downfalls of dating a professional single.

Time away from home - Of course they're going to be going to the office everyday, maybe out of town once a week or more and maybe even over a weekend in fact if they are very driven, you can expect all of these and more. Late hours, early mornings, numerous days in which you may not see each other and might not even speak one on one. The remedy? Communicate. Have an ongoing calendar, it won't be perfect as things change but it's one tool in communicating. If you can see a schedule it will help you understand what's going that week or day. Always talk once a day. Both of you must be committed to speaking to each other daily. It might be for only 5 minutes at 2 a.m. but it will make a difference.

The job is always on their mind - In every persons professional career especially early on they are given responsibility to get the job done. This may entail them following up on every detail at all hours of the day and night. You must understand that this is part of working your way to the top and even more importantly the professional you are dating must understand that although they might have to take a call at dinner they should keep it as brief as possible and let their colleagues know that a call should only be made if it is extremely important or critical in nature. Communication once again plays a role in the relationship, for all parties involved.

Perfectionism - How hard is it to be perfect? Well since no one that I've ever met is, it must be impossible. That being said we probably all have idiosyncrasies that some would consider a trait of perfectionism. Professional singles are no different, they must have details or actions within their jobs that require perfectionism otherwise the product or service they produce would be substandard which is not the mark of a successful professional. Take the perfectionism in stride and recognize you probably have some traits that drive your partner nuts. Identify, recognize and adapt. Those three words will go along way in helping you and him or her overcome your faults.

The job is first - Ouch, how can someone put something before me? Guess what, this happens whether the person is a professional single or a everyday man. Something's always going to be important to someone and there may come a time when they have to choose you over that activity or function. Although this is a very black and white statement the truth is there is no easy answer for this question. In the case of a job you would have to look at each incident to determine the worth. For example if you had a date planned at 7 and you get a call at 6:45 that something came up at work it's ok to be upset but more importantly you need to judge the moment.

Without being a nagger you should find out what is so important that it can't wait until tomorrow, if the answer is valid then you must put it in context with the relationship overall. You knew going in that the career of the person was a big part of their life so you should accept that with that commitment to career comes some sacrifice on your end. However if you find out the reason for the cancellation is not a 911 emergency but a 411 pizza call then you should re-assess the person immediately. This would be a case of someone who is not honest, respectful or committed to having a relationship.

Let's summarize: Dating a professional single will probably entitle you to a lifestyle that leans towards the finer things in life and would probably ensure a future of financial stability and a golden retirement. Dating a professional single will also bring you many hours of you time, interrupted plans and until those retirement years a backseat to the demands of a successful career.

 If you are a person that can see a person for what they are and accept them for those strengths and faults and if that person meets what you deem as the perfect mate then dating a professional single is probably the best thing you will ever do. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...



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Dating - Stress Hurts Relationship - 0176

Stress is one of the most common used words. it is also one of the most common problems we all face. Stress kills the joy of living. Think about your friends, and you will surely point to one who always looks stressed. Who rushes from one work to another? Who has no time to sit down and think peacefully? Stress is the way of life for him/her.

What kind of success do such people get in dating? Very less. Let us see why? They will be stressed with the very thought of how the date will go? Whether the setting will be right/ whether he/she like me/ what if I speak some rubbish and hurt her/him? All such negative thoughts come in the mind of such people. They kill all the positive thoughts and think passively as if the sky was going to fall down.

On the day of dating, they would somehow miss the time. They may not have chosen the proper outfit? They would rush to the meeting place and disturb their mind in the process. It is the game of stress. Stress that is caused by thinking about - what if everything goes wrong? And predictably because of the stress, everything goes wrong.

Please relax. Let things go wrong if that is destined. Don’t worry about them. Relax and prepare calmly. Meet your date with a undisturbed mind. Don’t rush. If you are late say sorry and go forward. Try to enjoy and try to make your date enjoy your togetherness. Let the stress go and good and positive thought come in your mind. Stress never helps in dating. It rather kills all the chances of success.

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Dating Advice: You Have To Make a Woman Feel - 0175

You can buy a woman flowers for the next ten years and it won’t matter unless you make her FEEL an attraction to you. Women don’t care how things work; they care how things make them feel. In all of the romance novels and soap operas women have been devouring since they were kids, the leading males are always untamable, strong men who sweep women off their feet.

This is the quality that many “jerks” have. Women don’t like the fact that the guy is actually a jerk – it’s just that jerks have a tendency to have more of this primal, uncontrollable dominance that the weaker, “nice” guys don’t have. The sweet guy thing works only when a woman is in desperate need of attention. It can work with some women, but it will only temporarily keep her happy.

They can’t help it fellas. They are simply responding to Mother Nature. Estrogen is a drug that induces feeling. It makes women want and need to feel everything. Testosterone is a hormone of aggression/achievement and dominance. The sooner we realize and accept these facts, the easier time we’ll have understanding the dating world. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...



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Dating and Relationship Tips - 0174

Since Dating and Relationships are such a large, important part of everyday life, this article strives to help clear up myths from facts and present an overview of surrounding issues. Show Off – If you have a great body you’re trying to show off and young physical appearance, yet worry because you still seem to have difficulty finding dates and establishing relationships, here are some pointers.

Turn off the “ME” focus. Others tend to see that as boorish and think you only care about yourself, not others and certainly not them. Instead, turn the focus on outside interests that the other person can relate to, even if it has to be the weather. For help, tune in to an online news source like CNN or subscribe to a national or other major newspaper or magazine like Newsweek or head to the public library for the latest news briefs.

Online dating might be a good outlet for you, to as it generally offers a place to list all your great physical qualities as well as outside interests and more, presenting a more rounded dating candidate. Then those who are VERY interested in great abs, youthful appeal, etc. will be able to check you out. And those who are interested in the other interests can focus on those, too.

Sit, Don’t Take a Stand – Instead of voicing your opinions over issues that you pretty well know, cause heated arguments, don’t take a stand. Just sit them out. There’s no shame in passing up an argument. For example, if you both call yourselves “Christians,” yet one of you firmly has a complete set of rules and regulations about what a “Christian” really is, and doesn’t hesitate to voice this, skip over conversations about religion.

If you have to, simply say something along the lines of, “This gets us too heated, so let’s pass on if for now and move on to something else.” Agree that it’s okay to disagree. Because it is! Traditions – Keep up with some old traditions from each family. Alter some; create new ones. The main thing here is to make positive memories that you can share and relive over and over, especially during rough spots when you can’t remember why you are together. Traditions can be like glue and bind you with a common past.

Sex Vs Love – Sex and love are not the same thing. Learn the difference and don’t measure love by your hormones. Negotiator – Forget “his” and “hers” roles and who “should” do what when…Learn to negotiate. What works one day may not work another when timing is off, kids are on the run and disaster strikes, for instance, when your mother-in-law drops by unexpectedly.

Love and Hate – Love your mate. It is OK to strongly dislike (or “maybe” hate) a behavior, like cracking knuckles or biting nails. But remember to love the person. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...



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Dating Advice: What American Idol Can Teach Us about Attracting Women - 0173

When used correctly, arrogance can be an amazing tool to help you attract women. When you’re slightly arrogant, females want to find a redeeming softer side to you. If you're too arrogant or rude you will blow your chances. Let's look at Simon Cowell for a minute. When we first saw Simon on American Idol our first instinct was to hate the guy. We all said, "What an arrogant bastard". Now us guys thought that and probably never gave it a second thought, but women around the world starting digging deeper. They thought, "There's got to be something more to this guy". Then as the season went on Simon began to give credit where credit was do.

What began to happen was incredible. Whenever Simon gave a compliment, the audience and all of America (particularly women) began to cheer like crazy. Why did this happen? The reason is because people were so excited to see that redeeming quality they were searching for shine through. They knew there was some good in this guy. They found themselves wanting to like him. Randy Jackson who never played the mysterious, arrogant role at all didn't get nearly the same response when he gave kudos to a contestant.

The key is to balance this confident arrogance with a sweet, vulnerable side. You can actually create a pattern with women where they'll start being nice to you and doing all kinds of favors for you just to see that redeeming side of you peek through. It's an amazing thing to watch when it's done right. Personally I hate the idea of playing the arrogant role because I'm genuinely a nice, humble guy but it really works so I do it anyway. It even annoys me that women react well to this kind of attitude but unfortunately it's a fact of life.

Remember not to be mean for the sake of being mean. I wouldn't go as far as Simon, who actually crossed the line sometimes and became mean. Remember - you don't have months and months on a TV show to redeem yourself like he does so you can't afford to go as far with it as he has. But done properly, arrogance can really work for you.

A simple way you can begin to create the kind of dynamic that Simon does is to start calling girls out on things. Start "breaking her chops" in a playful way. When they are being lazy, call them lazy. If you don't like her outfit, say, "I'm not really feeling that. You should wear something else". Please don't take this as a cue to go out and be MEAN to women.

Instead it's a cue to go out and be HONEST with women. Her behavior will actually begin to cater to making you happy and she’ll start working hard to bring the complimentary side out of you. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...



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Dating - Not Asking For Immediate Results Is Better - 0172

Today, most of the daters want immediate results after a date. They want to meet their dream date immediately. They want to fall in love immediately. They want to like each other immediately. There is hurry in dating. There is a demand that we must get good date immediately. This is like interviewing candidates for a position in your organization.

You wish to get the best candidate as the first candidate and get frustrated if you don't get one after interviewing many. That frustration either makes you drop the idea of searching or you try to fit at least one candidate in the slot. But that will fail with disastrous results.

Are you doing something similar in dating? Do you not accept disappointments easily? Do you want your candy immediately like a child? That can lead to complications. You have to define your requirements and if you find that your date and you don't match, you have to drop him/her. You don't have to create excuses and fit him/her with you. That may lead to long-term pain.

Let us be sure. You are looking for a life partner. You have only one life and you must try and get the best partner you can to have happiness and satisfaction. Give dating enough time. Date few people before you decide about one. Make sure that your head is ruling you and not heart. Don't ask for immediate results. That can be painful over time. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...




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Dating - Lying - 0171

To impress some one we like, we lie. Because truth may at times make us feel awkward. To make other persons feel comfortable, we lie, otherwise our date may feel embarrassed. Lying, speaking truth and keeping quiet are three positions that we can take while dating. Does lying help? Many of us give some information about ourselves that is wrong. If you are a man, you may mention a higher income figure and women may fudge about their age. Lying hurts in the long term. Let us examine more.

Why do we date? Is it only for fun for a day to find out if we can find someone to partner with us for a long time? If we are looking for fun for a day, we should make this clear to our date and let them not expect anything else. Otherwise it can hurt a human being. If we are looking for a long-term relationship, every lie will ultimately get exposed. That will hurt us even more.

We might be feeling very uncomfortable during a date. Is it better to say that you are enjoying yourself or to diplomatically say about the real feelings? By lying here, we are giving wrong expectations to the other person. Why does that? One can diplomatically say - I am not feeling very comfortable. Can we cut short today?

Some people are liars by habit. They rarely speak the truth and lie as a matter of habit. Such people give wrong ideas to their date and hurt him or her. That is not a good way of doing things. One may not be very truthful, if something embarrassing comes up. But one can surely change the subject or keep quiet. Why lie? Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...

Lying hurts not only during dating, but also in every situation in life. A liar always feels threatened that the truth will one day get exposed. Isn't it better to keep quiet or speak truth?



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Dating Advice: Indecisive To Focused In 5 Steps - 0170

You are a single woman who is frustrated because your life and relationships are humdrum and mundane. Time to make some changes. What are you really passionate about? What makes your heart sing? Are you waiting for a relationship to make your life begin? It's time to step out of your comfort zone and begin to live a life that has energy and momentum.

Step 1 - Move out of Indecisive

As a single coach many of the women I speak to are indecisive about their lives and particularly about relationships. They seem to be in a rut and don't know how to find the time, energy or focus to have it be different.

Ask yourself the question; is my life as I would like it to be? Do I have a picture of how I want my life to look in a year, 2 years, 5 years? I suggest that if you want you life to be different you first have to start with your own vision. Part of this vision will probably include a relationships. So Step 1 is to build your vision, give yourself time and space to do this - get yourself a notebook, look at all areas of your life, including relationships, and write down how you would life to look.

Step 2 - Moving from trying to doing

Part of the problem for single women is that you do not know how to make the changes in your attitudes and actions. Quite a lot of the time I hear women say that they will 'try' to do something. Have you ever just tried to pick up a cup? Just trying ends in failure because you will not complete the action.

So now you have a vision how are you going to make this happen? How are you going to convert trying into doing? Step 2 is about learning not just to dip your toe in the water but to make the first step. Look at the work you have done on your vision and ask yourself what is the one thing I can do today which will move me towards that vision? This action will often be very small but it is a step taken and achieved.

Step - 3 Change

Change is not half-hearted, it has energy and dynamism. It is about having a headline for your life that says "I know where I am heading and I am walking in that direction". So in Step 2 I talked about taking the first steps. Although these may be small at first the aim is for you to get your life in motion and find more energy for yourself.

Step 3 is about how to find that energy. If you want to achieve lasting change in your life you are going to have to feel successful in the steps you are taking. What are you really passionate about that you are not doing now? What makes your heart sing? I suggest you concentrate on those areas of life that will bring you the biggest gains first. That means don't necessarily look at the relationship part first, look at those parts that you can achieve on your own.

Step 4 - Commitment to yourself first

Guess what, you need to fix your life first and a relationship that you desire will follow. This sounds like a tall order but I can assure you it works like that. Your first commitment is to yourself and getting all the pieces of your life in order so that you can have the future that you desire.

How can you keep that commitment? Step 4 is you putting your agenda at the top of your list of priorities. This is not about being selfish but about being self-focused and self-disciplined. Take the situation when you have promised yourself that you will do a particular task that will move you towards your vision. A friend phones, she is lonely and would like to meet for a drink. It is easy for you to give up on your task after all you want to be a good friend but it is more important to remind yourself about your priorities. After all you can meet her tomorrow night. So don't put off those things that move you further down your path.

Step 5 - Making a plan and sticking to it.

It is so easy to let life get in the way and find yourself back where you were. Therefore the most important part is having a plan for your life and for relationships that will keep you focused on moving forward.

My suggestion is that Step 5 is for you draw up a plan. It will have different areas for the different parts of your life. Then ask yourself what can I do this week, this month, this 6 months to move forward? Now it is time to make appointments with yourself, but your tasks in your diary. Be kind to yourself and don't make them too big or too many just slow and steady. See yourself being successful in ticking them off week by week.
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Dating - How To Get Big Success On First Date? - 0169

I have read many questions from worried daters about how to get success. They do not think about getting success on the first date. Unfortunately they are worried so much about their success that they feel they would be happy if they manage to get success after many attempts. Why such negative thinking and such low goals? Let me tell you how you can get big success on your first date itself.

Dating and worry do not go together- please understand that worrying about the result of the date will spoil your success chances. Why get worried? You are only going to meet a person of opposite sex for some time. Whether the chemistry develops or not, what do you have to lose? Why worry so much-the sky is not going to fall.

Dating and confidence is a success mix- are you a failure in life? Are you a loser? Are you not intelligent? Are you not a deserving person? Are you not smart? If you are all that, why do not you feel confident when you date? Let your partner worry, why are you worried? You have to be won over and not vice-versa. Go for the date with confidence. Your confidence will help you handle every situation.

Dating requires open and honest communication - why act and think of dialogues that are not your own. Similarly why think about lying? Be honest and open about everything. Talk as if you are talking to a good friend. Confidence should ooze out of every word you speak.

Dating needs charisma- yes; charm or charisma makes a person very attractive. Show yourself as somebody very desirable. Your body language should be that of a charismatic person.

Dating can be success if you do not worry about it and show yourself as a very desirable person. For once, let the other party worry if he/she can win you over. You will get success right on your first date.

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And Which Bouquet Will Make Her Heart Sway? - 0168

The ancient Egyptians are considered to be the first to use flowers as symbols of love. What a trend they set… thousands of years later, flowers are still at the top of the charts for gifts of love. Love is a hugely broad category, and fortunately, so are flower varieties. Love can be expressed as friendship, as intense passion, as filial, and any relationship in which respect and care are the foundation. Thus, when choosing flowers to send to whomever your feelings bend to, and in whatever degree of love, there are flowers that are appropriate.

Beyond your feelings for the lady or man, consider her or his feelings – the type of person receiving the flowers is more important than the meaning of flowers, as interpretations differ, and while you may be passionately in love with a girl who loves nature, she may prefer simple ivy to red roses. In addition to the personality, flowers can wonderfully complement a lifestyle. Take note of the type of surroundings, colors and style of those you love, and they will be impressed by your sensitivity to what they love. When thought goes into a bouquet, the gift takes on a new meaning, and will be remembered long after the blossoms end blooming.

First on the list in choosing your bouquet is to know what you want to say in giving it. If you are giving the bouquet to one who is cheerful and charming, and your relationship is innocent, chrysanthemums or daisies convey this message. If you are falling in love, but it is still quite playful and the tone is not too serious yet, hyacinth is an option. These bright flowers themselves are playful, with a strong, intoxicating smell. This sums up the first stages of love for many couples! If you intend to give flowers to one who is modest, violets won’t hurt anyone’s modesty.

If anything, a tad of modesty may be lost in receiving such a gift of understated elegance. When we are giving flowers for romantic purposes, do not feel limited to red or pink roses. In addition to the gorgeous rose, other romantic contenders include tulips, lilacs, wildflowers, and orchids. If finally, after all the years of motherly love, you wake up one day wanting to acknowledge mum for all that she’s done, pink carnations are an especially interesting choice, as they represent a mother’s undying love. According to legend, carnations stemmed from the tears of Mary as she watched Jesus carry the cross. Thus, in giving carnations to mother, you are recognizing the years of undying love that she has given to you!

While flowers traditionally have their own language and meaning, do not feel limited to flower language when choosing a bouquet. Often far more pertinent to your life is the personality of the person receiving the bouquet. Starting with the eternally beloved drama queens (and kings) in our lives, the flowers they receive should represent their fiery personalities. Best for the dramatic one is a bouquet of bold colors in a sharp, non-traditional vase. Perhaps a metallic square vase is in line here. While pleasing an artist aesthetically may seem a mission impossible, lean towards exotic flowers.

Their rarity will please the artistic eye, and if you ask the florist to recommend some flowers of uncommon shapes, this will be even better eye candy for the artist. The free-spirited and natural will love that which reminds them of being outdoors: green and flowering plants, with some spicy smells added to take the imagination away from contemporary life. A classic beauty will like a traditional arrangement of lush and various flowers, while the romantic will enjoy softness in both colors and fragrance, with ribbons decorating the bouquet.

Beyond personality, if you are looking for a more creative way to please, choose the bouquet based on other factors, such as color or home interior. Knowing her favorite color, and giving her a bouquet with that color as the focus will make any flower that much more appreciated. If you are going to an event, be it a ball or an anniversary dinner, figure out the color of her dress beforehand, and order a bouquet that will match or complement the dress. Even if it won’t go out with the two of you, it will look great in any pre-photos. Did grandma buy new curtains that she’s extremely proud of? How touched she will be when you give her a bouquet that complements her beautiful new curtains (no matter what your opinion of them!). The general style of an apartment or house can be considered. Don’t feel you have to buy a huge gushing bouquet if the apartment where the flowers are heading is minimalist and contemporary. Florists are artists, and they can make a bouquet as different as you ask for.

Of course, with all the meaning that flowers can take on, most important, and most pleasing to the recipient, will be the flowers that have personal meaning. If, on your first date strolling through St. James’ Park, you pinched a tulip to impress your girl, this may be the most romantic flower to you as your relationship progresses. Guidelines are always guidelines, but life experience should be what marks and makes our own guidelines.

Do remember that whatever the flower, you can always add to its importance by choosing a color she loves. Still, knowing the traditional meanings of flowers helps you decide what message you want to convey in giving flowers. Knowing his or her personality and lifestyle will add to making a bouquet unique to that person. Thus, when choosing flowers, there is no right or wrong, but the more thought you put into the bouquet; the longer it will be cherished and remembered.


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Creating Lasting Love - 0167

Many people are able to get into relationships. And many are able to attract partners who are suitable for them, physically and mentally. But for many people, their relationships do not last much more than 3 months! This is a shocking truth of the dating world. Why does this happen? Why can’t we make it last? I’ll give you three reasons:

*1. Treating a Relationship as a Transaction
You cannot be calculative when it comes to love. Counting who did what for whom leads to the death of generosity. Theoretically speaking, there’s a hidden universal law guiding human relations, which is, “If you stop giving, you stop getting.” And if that’s the way the law is, them we must not stop giving or else the relationship will die. So if you are calculative, you will count to a point where you will say, “Yep, that’s enough. I’ve given my fair share. Now it’s your turn.” But your partner may not feel it’s their turn yet. So don’t calculate. Keep giving generously and you partner will return your love when the time is right.

*2. Not Being Patient or Sensitive Enough
Relationships are delicate because human emotions are delicate. You can bring the strongest relationship to its knees with a single quarrel. You don’t even need to do it in person; over the telephone will do. You can end a good relationship with words that hurt, no meeting needed. So if you treasure your relationship, never blow your top. Your partner deserves your best behaviour. And the more love you invest in them, the more they will love you for it.  

*3. Idealistic Demands
Some people are more idealistic than others. They have a vision in their minds of how they want their ideal partner to be – and they will not compromise. Usually in life, the partners we end up with do not meet our original criteria. Maybe she doesn’t have the perfect figure or maybe he’s not exactly Prince Charming. But in the end we still choose this person. Why so? It’s because our criteria have changed. By living long enough, you see different kinds of people. And you will start editing your criteria of what you want in a partner, circling those qualities which are important, and mentally scratching out those which are not. So if a person has a list of rigid, uncompromising qualities that they follow to the dot, they might just kick out the partner that was right for them.

If it were so easy to make a relationship last, our divorce rates would be lower. Even if people do not fall into the three traps listed above, there are other problems such as the possibility of meeting someone more attractive (high chance). What should you do in such a case? Here’s a principle to guide you: “A great love relationship is not something you find, but something you build and commit yourself to.”  There are tons of beautiful people in the world and many who are physically more attractive than your partner. To some people, the grass is always greener on the other side. So what do they do?

They hop over to the neighbour’s lawn! But then the lawn doesn’t seem so green anymore because they see the weeds of the person’s personality. But it looks like there’s a greener lawn next door, so they hop again! They do their partner hopping, dating and exchanging in search of the greenest lawn, but they’ll never find it because a beautiful relationship, like a beautiful garden, must be tended to and cared for. You can have ‘happily forever after’ with the partner you choose, but you must commit yourself to it. Without commitment, nothing lasts.

To sustain love, two people have to choose each other. If either partner defaults or is unsure, the whole relationship falls apart. It doesn’t matter how much you love the other person, if they do not return your love.

This reminds me of those Chinese drama serials where they are fond of saying, “Ai Qing Shi Bu Neng Mian Qiang De” – translated it means ‘you can’t force love’. And this will be the time when the male suitor will grip his head and cry, “Why! Why?!!” Then he has no alternative, but to drown his sorrows in drink, and maybe get knocked down by a truck. Then the girl will visit him in hospital, where with his dying breath he whispers his last words of undying love… then he dies.

*An Uncommitted Partner* Sometimes you might find that although you are ready to commit, your partner doesn’t want to settle. They may be on the lookout for the ideal person who can fulfill their whims and fantasies… some idealistic vision of what a lover should be. Many people believe that they can hold on to their partner and make them stay.

But this isn’t true. If your partner wants to go, they will. A lover is not an inanimate object – you can’t ‘hold on’ to them – they are human beings with free will and dreams and ideals of their own. What you can do is realize that each person seeks their own happiness. Sometimes it may be with you, at other times it may not. And if you still care for this person, the best you can do is allow them to follow their dreams. Gracefully step aside and wish them well. The right partner will come along for you one day.

*Case Study – “Mr Y”*
Last week we talked to Mr Y about his hope of winning over a girl who already has a boyfriend. This week, let’s flip it and talk about what it’s like to be the person who’s about to lose their partner.

A reader wrote in regarding Mr Y’s case. She suggests that we put ourselves in the boyfriend’s shoes and see whether we like someone trying to break up our happiness. The reader suggests that Mr Y should take an altruistic approach, where he is happy the girl he loves is happy and well-looked after. I didn’t want to agree (an urge to protect my client)… but after serious contemplation, I yielded because the reader has a point.

The easiest way for Mr Y to be happy is to realize that he cares for the girl even though she’s chosen to be with someone else. In a way, Mr Y is a martyr who sacrifices his desire to be with her, for her happiness. Could a man do that if he loves a woman? I’m sure he could, but I doubt she would even notice his sacrifice.  “Dagger in the Heart” Mr Y said he felt a sharp stabbing pain in his heart, when he found out that the woman he loved had recently found a boyfriend. I said, “I understand that sharp pain feeling.” Everyone who has been on the verge of losing a romantic partner has felt this sharp stabbing pain. If you haven’t, then you have not loved with all your heart.

The more you love a person; the more you care about him or her, the greater the feeling of being stabbed in the heart when they betray or cheat your love. Although the normal reaction to being dumped is to go ballistic and tell your lover what a piece of trash they are, your heart feels like a knife has sliced through it. This heart-pain is there because buried under your anger, there is love.

When our partner betrays our love, there are two immediate feelings – the part that feels cheated, and the part that still cares. On one hand we hate them for hurting us, and we want to hurt them back. On the other hand, we still have feelings for them, so just the thought of breaking up is hurting our soul. So what you need to realize is the deep stabbing pain you feel in your heart is not the pain of rejection, but the pain of trying to hate someone you love. Only when you can admit that you still care, and stop trying to hate them, the two parts dissolve and become one whole. The pain disappears.

If you want to find an ideal partner, you first have to BE an ideal partner. Give your partner first-class treatment – be infinitely patient, loving, and giving. This doesn’t mean you do not settle differences, but that you do it in a calm and gentle manner. Don’t be calculative about giving. Give with all your heart and trust that your partner appreciates the love you give. They will return it to you when you least expect it. Realize that some of your demands are idealistic and unnecessary, drop them or change them.

And finally, strive to become the best you can be in mind, body, and spirit; socially, financially, and emotionally because the better you become as a person, the better a partner you will attract.  Good luck and may you build the love life of your dreams. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...



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Creative Ways Of Asking Out A Stranger - 0166

Women these days are smart and cautious. With the amount of date rape cases on the rise, going out on a date with a stranger is becoming less popular. However, the good-hearted person you are, that should not stop you from asking out an interesting stranger.  Here are creative ways of asking her out. Walk Over and Ask. The least complex but usually hardest way to ask out a stranger is walking over and asking straight away.

The very simplicity of walking over and blurting out a simple, direct question makes the whole strategy challenging. The execution is so simple that the success or failure of the move lies entirely on the individual executing it. The proven technique? Have the looks of a Brad Pitt, the wit of a George Clooney and the Cruiser charm, and you’ll sure to get a, “yes.”

However, for the balance of the population who is not so fortunate to be like them, there are other options to take, to avoid getting rejected.

Start with a Complement. A complement is always a good way to start. But complementing her looks is so passé and doubtful because it borders on being a pick-up line. Try to complement her action or things that she uses instead of her looks.

If you saw her park perfectly, then complement that and ask if she has time to describe her experience with her car. Ask her about the notebook she’s using, its value and performance, as you are also interested in getting one for yourself. Ask about her mobile and if she’s satisfied with her provider. Those should be good starting points of a conversation and hopefully you are able to extend it until you get her number, or a real date.

Be Familiar to the Stranger

Sometimes, asking out strangers are easy if they are not a total stranger to you. You may have seen her weekly at the fruits section of the grocery or she may have caught your eye as she was loading her laundry. You may not know her name, but you certainly can know a lot about her, just by observing her.

If you find a potential date with any of the strangers that you regularly see as you head to the office, then create interest by observing her more closely. Try to know her schedule or where you see her often. Wait for the right moment to happen, so you have a higher chance of getting positive results.

When you see her every morning at your favorite cafĂ©, don’t ask her out while she’s picking up an espresso-to-go at 7:30 am. Wait till Friday, when she usually spends the afternoon with her notebook and a tall latte. That should be a good opportunity to make conversation. She’s in a relaxed state, not in a hurry, and maybe open for new acquaintances.

Laundromats are a good place to ask out a stranger. Why? Because you have the time. There is nothing more boring than waiting for your cycle to finish. And people usually have at least 2: whites and coloreds. So that’s enough time and opportunity for you to gather up the courage and ask. But before doing so, make sure that you’ve made your background check.

Maybe she reads while she waits for the laundry to finish. Ask about the book but keep the conversation light so she will not be put off by your presence. Offer to help when you can, without imposing, so she will not be threatened. Smile genuinely, from the heart and she will see your pure intentions and may become interested to go out.

A Common Acquaintance

In this small American country, people are connected to each other, in one way or another. The key is to find your connection to the stranger that you are interested in going out with.  Spend a week or two observing your stranger. If you are lucky enough to find a common friend, then that is a sure ticket to ask her out. Arrange for a chance meeting, or a group date to have an opportunity to have a conversation with her. Soon as you are able to get past the “hi” and, “hello,” then you should be able to take it through spending some time together alone.

There’s much excitement and adventure in asking out strangers. Overcoming the challenge is quite fulfilling. However, make sure that your intentions are genuine and good, for only the pure at heart deserve to go out with the interesting stranger. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...


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Consider Using A Dating Service - 0165

There are many people in the world that are looking for that special someone to share their life with. In fact, as a counselor, I meet with countless people everyday who are looking for love and are just not sure where to find it. I have learned that people are somewhat desperate to find true love and that they will often go to extreme measures to find someone special. One method that I often suggest to my clients is using a dating service.

If you asked me ten years ago if I would ever suggest that people use a dating service, I would have definitely said no.

I would have said that people need to find their special someone on their own and that a dating service is just a phony way that people are using to try to make money. But I have seen multiple clients try a dating service and find great success. They met amazing people and are all settled and married with children.

If you are thinking about using a dating service, then do so with caution. While there are many great dating services out there, there are also a lot of poor services that only seek to get your money and keep you hooked on the hope of finding true love with people that don't really exist in their dating service. So be careful that you take time and do research to find a great dating service.

Ask your friends or people you know that have used a dating service with success for their suggestions. Proceed with caution in this process and realize that no dating relationship will ever fulfill you until you are fulfilled within yourself. That is one of the biggest misunderstandings people have of relationships is that they will find satisfaction and completeness in a relationship. I always work to teach my clients about taking the time to learn themselves and to learn the things that they are passionate about.

A dating service can be a great way for solid people to meet one another and to begin exploring romantic relationships. Call and research dating services in your area and also do online searches to learn more. Proceed with caution and be sure of your expectations before you begin any experiences with a dating services.

If you are unfulfilled with your current life, than try out a dating service or two and see what can become of your life and your relationships. You have nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain, so check out a dating service today. Dont forget to visit www.NoMoreSingles.com and www.TeraLovers.com to find the right person for you. Best Wishes...



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