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If your spouse never listens to you, send them this video...
In this video you're going to learn 4 listening skills that will not only make you a better listener, but a better lover.
More than anything we human beings want to feel heard. It's a deep and primal need that we all have.
Here are 4 easy ways to improve your Listening Skills and make your partner feel heard, loved and cared for.
1.Be Responsive when your partner is speaking.
Even if it's just with "uh huh" or "that makes sense" or nodding your head. This makes them aware that you are actually listening.
2. Stop Multi-Taking while listening. Stop everything you're doing when your partner is speaking with you and give them your undivided attention. When you're doing something else, you can't pay attention to what is being said and your partner will unconsciously feel unimportant and ignored.
3. Listen without an agenda. Usually when we think we're listening we're not -- we're planning what we're going to say in response to what the other person said. Instead, just listen with no agenda other than listening.
4. Listen to Learn: Listen with the intention of learning more about who your partner is, what they believe, how they feel...
Ask questions as soon as you don't understand something about what they are saying. If you don't understand something they said, you mind will get stuck on that thing and you won't hear anything afterwards.
So saying something like, "I'm not sure I understand what you meant just then... can you help me understand?" can really show your partner that you're interested and make them feel like they are important and you value their help.
Your partner will love you for it.
Listening skills are not difficult to learn, but it does take practice to stop yourself interrupting and satiating your own need to be heard.
If you focus on understanding your partner, your turn to speak will come.
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